Or...There is a reason for why that happened
What a mystery for it to happen for a reason. Now we must search for the reason?
Most of the time it is for reassurance. In the wake of a seemingly random event (usually a bad event), it offers a measure of comfort to believe that there was a hidden purpose behind it. Otherwise, life would seem too random and accidental. Although, neither of these reasons gives comfort, a real assurance or a solid basis for something honest people continue to say it as a way to justify anything and everything.
It can also be used to suggest that there is some greater purpose or meaning for what has happened which is determined by fate, a higher power, God, or the universe. How would you know if it did happen for a certain reason?
What if things happened because of the basic principle known as; Cause and Effect? Action and Results? You Reap What You Sow?
The most inevitable cliche…
This phrase is almost always well-meaning, however, it effectively shuts down the conversation. Instead of encouraging an authentic, possibly helpful dialogue, the adversity is unceremoniously summed up. What can possibly be said in response? If the other person believes in “everything happens for a reason” but you don’t…would offend them to give them another perspective that it controversial or would they not be able to handle where this conversation goes?
When you think about the phrase and that way it is used, from that perspective it’s even worse. It’s used in a way where it’s implied that the underlying reason is always good. Sometimes the reason is you’re stupid and make bad decisions.
Another perspective is it suggests to your future already written in stone, and that you basically have no control over any choices because they will all eventually lead to the same outcome for the reason it should be happening. If everything is predetermined…is there no such thing as free will?
When someone loses a loved one this is the worst meaningless thing you can say.
Can Things Happen For A Reason?
As overused as the phrase can be if we remove all the fake fluff, things do happen for a reason. As we can see in this illustration: The reason for why something happened: is because there was a drunk driver who was too confident in himself and hit a little boy crossing the street.
The effect or so the result is that the little boy was hurt and rushed to the hospital and there was nothing that could save him. No one could ever deserve such a thing but these are the facts as to what what happened. Anything else is fluff.
Another example: The person you love cheats on you, he leaves you find to find his happiness somewhere else. While you now feel a little lost
The result: Grief, maybe separation and then divorce. His affair saying it happens for a reason. He ends up cherishing that so much more. How will you begin to justify that?
A friend of yours feels lost in the world. He doesn’t tell you what’s going on within him. He seems happy.
The result: Next thing you know he takes his life in the most unexplainable way. Do you tell his mom it happened for a reason? Some unknown reason…
Sometimes there are no words that can be said and a hug and a loving message from the heart is all we can give as comfort.
Maybe it’s a lot easier then we make it out to be
This is not a religious conversation but it can easily become one. There’s a fine line isn’t there…
The inevitably of this natural law underscores the truth
A farmer knows this principle to be true, whatever, a man is sowing, he will also reap. After a farmer has sown his field with seeds, when the time come from sprouting, it is too late for him to wish he had planted something else instead. No amount of wishful thinking on his part will change his crop into something else. The farmer is bound to reap what he has sown.
An unchangeable law of nature is at work here. A law that originated with the beginning of this earth and no puny little human can change that.
What we sow in the soil of our lives is bound to have fruitage also according to it’s kind…according to whether the seed we sow is good or bad, with a view to the spirit which is good or with a view to the imperfect flesh. Because this law is set in nature, it can said it is said in stone therefore, it behooves us to look well to the way we sow from now on.
We Reap What We Sow
In regards to our personal lives, the purpose for which we sow is as important as the seed itself. We can have good seed to grow but with a wrong motive such as selfishness… This can corrupt the seed and yeild bad fruit
If we want to reap wheat we cannot sow weeds. If we want something good, we cannot go in contrary to the laws and principles that are already set in place as truths. Stick to your high standards. Why struggle against the current?
This concept can be applied in every aspect of our lives. In attaining success at work, reaching goals, family, friendships, relationships, and diet.
The Harvest Can Be Good Or Bad, Depending On Us
Choose to reap what is good. Sow sunflower seeds in your life. See it as sowing your favorite flowers and veggies and fruit. Creating a garden of success and goodness in your life.
For this good motives are our intentions and that’s a good first step but that is not even the begining!
A sacrifice is not a sacrifice unless it’s a sacrifice. Sometimes choosing the right course requires us to sacrifice our personal preferences. Such as going to university, going to the gym, working long hours, raising children, being the best at something, starting a business, marrying… The right motive will lead us to sow the right seed in regards to taking action.
Soft Heart
True repentance is manifested by actions. Forgive yourself and others. Have the hard conversations so you can move past the hard moments. SO you can embrace the change waiting to happen for your best interest.
The world does not revolve around you. Remember to take those around you into consideration and to do good for them. To reap what is good, we must sow what is good.
Don’t compare yourself to others and stay true to your course. Trust your process and do not follow the crowd unless you want to reap what they have. Even then that’s not guaranteed.
overcome bad habits and replace them with good ones. You may need a stronger motivation than merely knowing about certain risks. After all many people persist although knowing that abusing drugs can endanger them. Strengthen yourself and your love.
The people with whom you associate will have a powerful influence on you for good or bad. If you walk with those who are wise you too can become wise. If you walk those who are stupid we can assume the high possibility of things not going well.
Doing what is fine and good often requires work. For example think of growing your garden, fixing a lovely meal, hosting a garden party, going to the gym and working out, keeping up with our friends, helping our families, being attentive to those we love, taking care of children and pets and the list continues…
Thus, action is required on part and to not give up in doing good.
What happens will depend on you and if it doesn't it because it's unforeseen occurrences.
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