Harboring resentment is like slapping yourself and then expecting the other person to feel the pain
It’s natural for us all to resent people or even the advice some may have to give. The tone or the way it’s given isn’t always given in the best way. Especially, when it points out our mistakes or weaknesses. Giving yourself away to the spirit of resentment, repeatedly can make your hard neck like a stubborn mule… That can make us unreasonable and unapproachable which can make things worse.
In the end, we might face sterner measures, restrictions, and calamities had we had a better attitude in the first place we could have avoided such calamities. Our view on matters is really a reflection of our understanding and our appreciation.
When a person lacks understanding then he becomes like a mule or a horse without understanding who’s spiritedness needs to be bridled. Rather than to later regret the calamities how wise it is to display understanding and be peaceable.
It is intellect that guides humankind so that is where we need counsel. Having in Inferior brain like that of a horse or Mule has to be guided to places it is desired for it to go by physical means- bridled. Man is not be counseled like a mule for we have intellect. We are not forced do certain things. We are able to decide for our selves what I s good and what is bad. We use what information we allow to enter into our minds to direct our steps and control our actions.
It is intellect that guides humankind so that is where we need counsel. Having in Inferior brain like that of a horse or Mule has to be guided to places it is desired for it to go by physical means- bridled. Man is not be counseled like a mule for we have intellect. We are not forced do certain things. We are able to decide for our selves what I s good and what is bad. We use what information we allow to enter into our minds to direct our steps and control our actions.
You can try and fight the facts to create your own reality but how far is that going to get you?
Resentment is a choice. Some people might doubt that. They would say, ‘My spouse made me resentful.’ The problem is, such thinking emphasizes something that cannot be controlled—the actions of another person. Rather, than making things more complicated and holding on to the idea, It’s best to communicate with your spouse how it made you feel and come to a mutual understanding.
We cannot control what someone else says or does, but we can control how we react to it. Resentment is not the only option.
What You Can Do
Take responsibility for your resentment. Granted, it is easy to blame someone for how you feel because of whats happening. But remember, resentment is a choice. So is forgiveness. Therefore, to forgive does not require that you minimize the offense or act as if it never occurred; it could mean that you simply let it go, realizing that resentment can do more damage to your health and your marriage than the offense itself.
A spirit of forgiveness allows you to approach your problems with a better mindset.
Are you prone to anger? Naturally, these situations can make us heated. Does that describe you? Ask yourself: ‘Am I inclined toward bitterness? How easily am I offended? Do I tend to make issues over minor matters?’
Have you ever noticed that people who nurse grudges and harbor resentment often end up hurting themselves? Resentment is a heavy burden to carry in life. When we nurture it, it consumes our thoughts, robs us of peace, and stifles our joy. Scientific studies suggest that harboring anger can increase our risk of heart disease and a host of other chronic illnesses.
Insight is the ability to see beneath the surface, to look beyond the obvious. Insight nurtures understanding, for it can help us to discern why another person spoke or acted in a certain way. Endeavoring to grasp his genuine motives, feelings, and circumstances may help us to dispel negative thoughts and feelings toward him or her.
"The one who keeps harping on a matter separates close friends"
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